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Compared to some childfree adults, I’m privileged to feel at peace with my decision. The sound of a baby crying makes my muscles tense, and whenever someone passes me their toddler, I hold them out in front of me with rigid arms, unsure of what to say or how to act.

I’m what researchers call an “early decider” when it comes to kids: I’m one of the lucky ones who has always known I don’t want them.